The Four Agreements written by don Miguel Ruiz is a spiritually enlightening book that can help people rapidly transform their overall lives to a new experience of freedom, true happiness, and love. In this article I am going to explain how The Four Agreements can help men improve there dating lives. Agreement #1: Be Impeccable With Your Word When you speak with integrity and say only what you mean with your date it does at least two things. 1) Increases the amount of value and respect she will have for you. Now I know sometimes you will find yourself in situations were you think you know what will happen if you speak the truth and what will happen if you don't. Yet a woman's attraction for you can grow when she knows that she is with a man who will choose the truth no matter what the perceived consequences or gains. 2) By avoiding negativity and gossip in your words you maintain a aura of positivism and happiness both qualities that a healthy beautiful woman will find attractive. This doesnt mean you should forget tact, only lies.Agreement #2: Don't Take Anything Personally In order to succeed you must be willing to learn from your failures. It would be great if every woman you met treated you like the King that you know you are, however on occasion you will run into a woman who for whatever reason chooses to disregard you or treat you in a way that you know is less than you are worth. When you have realized that she is not responding to you but to her own inner-self you will find yourself approaching women in an entirely different way. Agreement #3: Don't Make Assumptions When you find the courage to express and act upon what you really want you will find that coming from this position of strength will be a turn on to the women you date. It is also important to remember that no means no and respect her boundaries. Just because she says no now doesn't mean later she will so no as well. Respect her wishes and take it back down to a level she finds more comfortable and you might be surprised at the results that you will get. Agreement #4 Always Do Your Best Remember that when dating your #1 priority should be having fun and with that in mind always do your best to ensure that you have fun. Never take yourself to seriously and always enjoy yourself. Consciously becoming aware off all of the agreements and making an effort to incorporate all of them will not only improve your relationships with others. It increases your opportunties to improve your dating skills while maintaining your true self. |
