If youve already been to the first base of swinging, then lets go ahead and hit that home run. After weeks, maybe even months of slow, soft swinging, youve gotten comfortable and youre ready to go.

Have you and your partner talking about whats okay to do and what isnt?

A Few Basic Rules

Each couple will be different in determining the rules of play when hard swinging, but here are some things to keep in mind or try for your selves.

Talk about your fantasies. Is your husband into watching two women, or are you ready to see your husband pleasure someone else? What do you really want to play out? Be honest when you talk with your partner.

This isnt a bartering session; this is a time for you to lay everything out on the table to make sure that you arent hurting the relationship that you already have.

One of the worst things that you can do is not talk about the details ahead of time, and either feel pressured into doing something that you arent ready for, or watching your partner do something that you arent ready to see.

And talk with the other couple too. If youre uncomfortable about fellatio or some other act, then say it.

You may even want to write out a sort of contract, and sign it.

Since you may not be in each others sight, knowing exactly what your partner will and will not be doing can set a beginners mind at ease.

Starting The Fun

When youre in the room with your new playmate, you want to try to make the scene comfortable. If youve talked ahead of time, this wont be difficult.

You can start by talking or just moving closer to each other.

Its amazing what a sexy environment can do as well. Maybe candles and incense can make for a sultry atmosphere, or maybe you just want to get down to business.

Start with exploring their body. Touch and feel each inch. Make compliments as you go, but dont talk about comparisons. This moment is about the other person and making them feel special.

There will come a point when your bodies will figure out how to move with each other. Keep the others fantasies in mind.

Did they want you to try something in particular, or did they want you to surprise them?

If at any point you are uncomfortable or need to stop the festivities, then do so. Immediately.

This is not a game in the sense that someone wins and someone loses. You are working together to overcome sexual boundaries and fulfil fantasies. You both still have someone to go home with.

And if you want to continue the swinging relationship, you have to be able to trust each other completely.

At this point, if its been agreed upon, go ahead and have sex with the other personcareful to stay protected and safe. Savor the feeling of release of orgasm as you lie in someone elses arms.

Savor the satisfaction.