These traits result from being raised in an environment that hindered emotional growth. Regardless of economic situations, children were emotionally deprived, neglected or traumatised in some way, or they were so indulged or overprotected that they never learned to cope with or properly tolerate frustration, anger, stress or disappointments. While we are all self-absorbed to some extent, gamblers are more narcissistic. Although it is easy to become angry and frustrated with them, we need to recognise that their narcissism is a way of coping with SHAME - feeling helpless, hopeless, powerless and unworthy - anger, rage, fear and the hurt they experienced in childhood. Gamblers and addicts of all sorts have some of the following narcissistic characteristics. Grandiosity; expect and need to be recognised as special Expoitative tendencies; use people to meet their own needs Poor reaction to criticism; eagerly seek approval, avoid confrontations Sense of entitlement; feel they should get special attention from everyone Recurrent fantasies of unlimited success; as a substitute for the hard work necessary for achievement Chronic feelings of envy; what they have is never enough, envious of those who have more Lacking in empathy; do not recognise how others are feel Craving attention and admiration; display vanity, exhibition, showing off Feelings of uniqueness; think that no-one could understand them All or nothing tendencies; everything is either good or bad, no in between. |
